Social graces

Sometimes I’m happier when I abstain from watching the news. The senseless murders, the abduction of women and children, car accidents resulting in loved ones’ deaths from distracted drivers and all the other atrocities displayed across the screen, is beyond disheartening. But, the last couple of days I’ve lazily indulged in lingering over my morning coffee in front of the television. Surely, my blood pressure would be lower if I picked up my knitting rather than listen to the dispatching of crimes and meaningless nonsense over the air waves.

For instance, yesterday on ABC’s, The View, Barbara Walters was rebuking Her Majesty the Queen for her ‘sour face’ and dressing ‘like something out of the nineteenth century’ during the opening ceremony for the Olympics. While I didn’t agree with the Queen’s selection of accessories (black gloves, black handbag and black shoes) for her pink dress, I am appalled by Ms. Walters blatant bashing of the Queen’s attire. What in heaven’s name is to be gained from her dreadful diatribe?

My blog readership may be miniscule but it is an forum for self-expression and right now I’m so provoked if I don’t take advantage of this outlet and express myself, I’ll pop!

While Ms. Walters acquiesces that Her Royal Highness has a sense of humor she also criticizes her unsmiling face during the segment of the program when a children’s choir sang ‘God Save the Queen’. Yes, I too would have thoroughly enjoyed seeing the Queen smile approvingly while the children performed but we are not privy to the Queen’s thoughts. Her stoic face may not have accurately reflected her sentiments or what was in her heart. As much as we might insist we are all knowing when it comes to what others are thinking, the truth is, all we can legitimately do is speculate what’s on another’s mind.

The distress I feel over the commentary from Ms. Walter, who I have faithfully watched and admired down through the years, is from her lack of tact and unforgiving manner towards the Queen ensemble. What’s happened to the art of executing eloquence and respectfulness in our conversation whether we are speaking privately or in front of a national audience? My mother taught me that if you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say it at all. Didn’t we all grow up with that adage?

Several years ago I was introduced to the talk radio world as a “social commentator”. Perhaps my job is not done. As long as I can speak and type I pray that I will use my words honorably.

This morning’s indulgence of watching TV has rekindled my passion for keeping good citizenship alive. We have no control over other’s conduct or conversation and while we may feel let down by their behavior, more important is not letting my own self down from my conduct or conversation. Change begins with me. One person can make a difference.

With God’s help and influence, I will continue striving for excellence in my life so that my words and actions are edifying to others.

It’s been a good day. I hope to help make it a better tomorrow by keeping my own social graces intact and above board.

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